Month: December 2015

How To Get Over Things

I will keep this short and simple. Do you want to get over something or someone?

How To Get Over Things

The answer is simple.

Just move on.

Nothing good ever comes from holding on to your problems. Just let them go. If you want to let something out, let it out and let it go.

Ex? Say what you have to and let it go.

Debt? Pay what you have to and let it go.

Relationship fight? Fix the problem and let it go.

Friend fight? Figure out a solution and let it go.

Injury? Heal and let it go.

Past? Just Let It Go.

But what if I can’t take care of that right now? Simple. Pick a day to fix it. Write it down. Write down your problem and possible solution. Mark it on your calendar, and let it go. Don’t think about it until that day, then fix it. But don’t dwell on it if you don’t have to. Don’t worry about it until you have to. You know what you have to do so just do it. Worrying isn’t going to help fix it and it’s not going to fix it faster. It will just weigh on your mind and make your life miserable. You decide when your problems are gone.

If you need to calm down, take a day off. Spend a day at the beach. Do something.

If you can fix your problems right now, do it and let it go. Move on.

Until Next Time.

How You Know You Made It

People will let you know.

It’s inevitable that people will judge you. You may think whatever you want of yourself. I choose to think of myself as a winner. Maybe I’m not a winner yet but I have that mindset. I will succeed. I do not care what people think about me but I do pay attention. That’s how I know I’m making progress.

When you win, some people if not most people will hate you; they will envy you; some people will love you; but most if not all will respect you. There will be people who compliment you, and people who will talk shit; but everyone will agree, YOU ARE A WINNER!

Just ask Floyd Mayweather. There are many, MANY people that want to see him lose. He has many haters. He also has many followers. People that will praise him no matter what. But ask any of the haters or people that don’t like him and they will still agree, he’s a winner. Everybody knows it, he knows it, the whole world knows it.

So the point is, it really doesn’t matter what you think of yourself or who you think you are. What will let you know success is when the people around you see a winner. The way you look at yourself, it doesn’t matter. It’s not who you are. Not to anyone else but you.

So see yourself as a winner. And make others see you as a winner.

There’s only one way to do that.

WIN!

How To Get Your Girlfriend Back

Why would you want her back? Haven’t you ever heard that saying? Exes are exes for a reason. No matter what happens from here on out, let me tell you something, it is NEVER going to be the same. If it was a case of cheating, as was my case, I was cheated on; or it was a case or getting tired of each other; or friends got in the way, family got in the way, no matter what it is, It is never going to be the same.

Here’s why. Every fight you have from now on, every argument, every little disagreement, the situation is going to come up. Whatever you broke up about, it will come up. I got cheated on. Badly. This girl went and started a whole other relationship, introduced the guy to her family while she was still with me. And I still wanted her back.

Why?

Because I was young and dumb at the time. Looking back now; Fuck That Bitch! I would never want her back. That’s how I wish I would’ve seen it back then. If you break up with someone, you break up. No matter what the reason. She breaks up with you, you break up with her? OK. It’s over. It’s done. It is never going to be the same. It is never going to be like a fresh relationship or like a strong relationship. Not after a breakup.

So do yourself a favor, Move On.

Just pick up and move on. There’s plenty of fish in the sea. There will always be someone better. If you’re worried about maybe letting “The One” go, don’t be. If you think there’s one person out there for you, maybe there is. But guess what, maybe there’s not. Move on. If there is one person out there for you I guarantee its not the ex. So move on and find someone better.

Until next time

How To Get Your Best Friend Back

So you had a best friend and you lost them. You know how you get them back?

You Don’t. You find a new best friend. First you must ask yourself “What made them a best friend?”

Let me give you my example. I had a female best friend. Let’s just call her D. She was my best friend when I was about 21. She was my best friend because she was there for me when no one else was. She helped me get through a very bad breakup. She was there for me at a very bad point in my life and at the time I would say no matter what, I would do anything for her. She was my best friend. But then, things began happening in her life that I wasn’t really a part of. Bigger than me. Some things she would tell me about, others she wouldn’t. The point is she ended up moving. She hooked up with this guy and she ended up moving to Alaska of all places. She would still call me. A lot. Not everyday but we would keep in constant contact. She would tell me about her new life, her adventures, her trials and tribulations. Her fights with her boyfriend, the good times with her boyfriend. Everything. We kept in touch.

Then little by little, we grew distant. It went from a couple times a week to maybe once a week, once every 2 weeks, to once a month. Then eventually it just… stopped. My best friend. That’s my story.

I moved on. Maybe not moved on from the situation. Maybe subconsciously, but I moved on. This was a time in my life when I wanted friends. I needed friends. And without knowing I got close to another friend. We would watch fights a lot. Every weekend we would watch sports. UFC, Boxing, Football, everything. Then we would talk. We would talk sports then life in general usually over a few drinks. Then without knowing, slowly but surely we became good friends. Really good friends. To the point where I would consider him a brother. And to this day, it’s been about 7 or 8 years, I know I would do anything in my power for him and I know he would do anything for me. We’ve had situations where he’s done me favors I know family or other so-called friends wouldn’t do for me. I can say without a doubt, that’s best friend.

That is crazy.

Crazy because I only known him for about 10 years now. But we didn’t really start hanging out or talking until the end of 2007. I have some friends that I’ve known since elementary and middle school. But what I believe in is Loyalty over Seniority. Yes I may have known them longer, but my friend Jose has always been loyal. Since we became friends he’s always been there. Even though our lives have changed since, he has a family now, I have a family now. He has his kids, I have mine. We may not hang out every weekend like we used to, but he still keeps in touch. He still wonders how I’m doing, I still check up on him as well. That’s a friend. That’s a homie. That’s blood. Maybe not physical, but Blood nonetheless.

I lost someone who was my best friend for a time. But I gained the experience. Maybe without that I wouldn’t have gained a friend. So just like with an ex, find a new, better one.

Until next time.

How To Keep Friends

No doubt by now you have had friends come and go in your life. I’m sure there are friends that are long gone that you wish you would’ve kept around. Think of the reasons why they are not around anymore. Could be anything.

Over a disagreement

Over Money

Over a girl

Over new friends

No time to hang out

Your life gets better and they don’t like it.

Relocation

You name it, there are many reasons. However there’s one true way to keep a true friend.

How To Keep Friends

Be Loyal.

That’s all it really takes. Ive had friends that have come and gone throughout the years. But I have friends that have been in my life for a while and I would still consider them true friends even though sometimes we go a long time without hanging out. But they are always there. They answer or return phone calls or messages. They’re there when you need someone to talk to. They’re there to listen. They give you advice. they hang out with you when possible. They check up on your life from time to time. They put you over new friends, or new girls, they look to you for advice or help. They want to see you succeed. They are there for you. Plain and Simple.

On the contrary, there are people in my life that have been around for a while that I would not consider true friends, just people I know. Why? Because they’re not loyal. They don’t stay in touch. They meet new people and stop talking to you. They move away and don’t keep in touch. They get a significant other and move you out of the way. Or (and this is the best one) You start winning and they start hating.

Which brings me to the worst type of friend. The old friends (not true friends) who come back when you’re winning. You need to watch out for those. They will only be around for their benefit. Where were they during your journey to success? Where were they when you were broke? 50 Cent once said that when he made it, his old friends would come out of the woodwork and say things like “Hey should buy me a car” or buy me this, buy me that. They think that because they know you, or you were friends once, that you should share your success.

FUCK NO!! Stick with your loyal friends. They are all you need. Especially if they stick with you through the rough times. If they are with you during your journey, keep them in your success.

Why You Should Work Out… With Weights

Don’t ask stupid questions! Everyone knows the benefits of working out, but people make excuses. Stop it. Stop making excuses. Have more respect for yourself. Im going to give you a few examples of why you should work out. And make no mistake about it, you’ve heard this all before! I know you already know this. So let’s kick your butt into gear.

Why You Should Work Out… With Weights

1- You will be strong! Everyone wants to be strong. Everyone wants to feel strong. You never leave the gym or finish a workout feeling weak. Maybe a little tired, but not weak. If you are just beginning to work out, there’s no better feeling than that next-day post workout soreness. You can feel yourself getting stronger from the very beginning. When your physical strength grows, your mental strength grows. You feel like you can take on the world.
2- You wont be so lazy. You will naturally be more active. Something happens to your body when you do workouts you didn’t think you could do, run distances you didn’t think you could run, lift weights you didn’t think you could lift. It brings out this burst of energy that just stays with you. Suddenly, your life changes. You will find yourself feeling lazy when you’re not active or working out. When before you were satisfied just eating and watching t.v. all night, and reaching for that cup of coffee to get through the day, you will now find yourself wanting to be up and getting shit done. So get through that period of adjustment. Pick up some weights, go for a run, and soon won’t want to turn on that T.V.
3- You will be healthier. Geez. Do you need any more reasons to work out? After training for some time, you will find yourself getting sick less often, if at all. Your immune system will be stronger than ever.
4- Discipline. This is the one most people do not like and often fail at. Most people aren’t disciplined enough to follow a workout schedule to the end, often giving up at the first sign of struggle. Don’t be soft. Don’t be weak. Things that are worth it are never easy. It takes dedication, pain, sacrifice, and most of all, hard work.
5- You will have better posture. There’s something about posture that screams to the world “I am a winner!” or “I’m not a winner!” Sitting for hours at home or at work at your desk job, which I don’t recommend having, is not good for your back. Slouching all day leads to slouching while out and about. When you’re walking around hunched over, you look weak. Working out will help you walk upright, as if you have a purpose, which you should. As if you are ready to take on the world, which you are. So get to it.

6- You’ll have a good time. Of course there’s a period of adjustment in the beginning when working out will seem like a chore, but once that’s over, you will find you can’t wait to work out. Now working out at home is fine, but if you really want to turn it up a notch, the gym is where it’s really at. Even on those days you don’t feel like working out, as soon as you step foot in the gym, you will find this smile come across your face and this energy will flow through your body making you feel like you’re in for a good time. I can’t tell you what causes that feeling, but it breaks through all limitations. Then it becomes fun.
7- Last but not least, You will look good. Obviously you will burn fat and gain muscle. Along with proper diet, you will get shredded. But you Must include weights. If you just do cardio, you will not look toned, just skinny with no definition. Who do you think gets more girls, the strong, buff guy, or the skinny no muscle guy? Chris Evans from Captain America, or Edward from Twilight? Magazines always have guys with 6 packs and big muscles. Weights are the only way to get them.

Let’s look good guys.

Till Next Time.

How to Become a Wolf

So you want to know how to step away from the heard of sheep and become a wolf. A winner. The solution is simple.

Just Do It.

All it takes is for you to decide that you’re tired of being a loser. You’re tired of being like the rest of the world. Deep down inside you is a winner desperately trying to come out. But you have to make that choice to let it out. No one is going to do it for you. You may hear many times that you should take risks, do what you want to do in life, pursue your goals, but usually, it’s not from the people you want to hear it from. The most influential people in your life (i.e. family and friends) will most likely try to hold you back, telling you to stay in your tried and true, comfortable life. Even if you’re not happy. Sheep will never understand winning.

You want to win. For now, you are a wolf in sheep’s clothing. It’s time to take the costume off.

They will never understand success. But you do. You need to leave that herd behind. Kevin Smith says “Surround yourself with ‘Why Not’ people. If you have a goal, dream, or idea that you believe 100% in your heart that you can succeed in; the people that ask you “Why?” or “Why would you want to do that?” are not the people you want in your corner. They will never be winners. Now the people that ask you “Why not?” and encourage you to follow through, those are the people you need to surround yourself with.

Become a wolf. Become a winner. Leave the losers in their own world. Be determined. It will be a drastic change in your life, but 10 years from now, 5 years from now, even 1 year from now, you will look around you while on your way to becoming a wolf, and see the same old sheep doing the same old things with the same old people, while you THRIVE! All it takes is for you to decide.

So what’s it going to be? Are you a Wolf, or a Sheep?

Welcome to Determined to Fight!

If you are new to this site, as you obviously should be since this is my first article, the click here.

This site is about being determined to fight. I’m not talking about fighting in the physical sense. (yet) I’m talking about fighting to live. Life is not just about going through the motions working your 9-5 job and living for the weekend. (or whatever your days off may be.)

At some point in our lives, we all had dreams, goals and ambitions.

As for myself, I had my life going a certain way until i was 23. I had certain goals. I had certain dreams. I had a stable job. I was in pretty decent shape. I had no family to worry about but myself. But life disagreed with me. And as life threw curve balls my way i just rolled with it. I didn’t adjust. I’m sure most of you can relate. I didn’t set new goals. I just took like as it came.

Fast forward to present day, I have a family (girl and baby boy), i don’t have a regular job (i run a carpet cleaning business), I’m not in the best shape of my life, i don’t have much money saved up, and up until 2 weeks ago, i had not future dreams/goals.

What changed? My outlook! 22 year old me was destined for success. The 29 year old me wants the ambition and the drive that the younger me had. I know after tons of research, success (whether financial or physical), is not that hard. All it takes is work. That’s where I come in. I’m going to show you how i do it.

I’m going to let you see how i let go of the past. I’m going to let you see how i transform my mind, my body, and my finances. I’m obsessed with improving my fitness, my lifestyle, religious beliefs, and finances.

Wasting time is not for my anymore. I do this for my family!

Determined to Fight 1 Percent — Get 1% better every day!

You can either watch and criticize or watch and get motivated.

2016 is my year. And it starts now!!