You never know if the relationship you’re in might be the one.
If you’re single and are looking for the one, sometimes you think it’s love at first sight. Then sometimes that ‘love at first sight’ turns into you broke up because she couldn’t, or you didn’t.
Sometimes it’s all in your head.
So when looking for the one check for these myths and don’t let them get in between you and true happiness.
These are just some things I learned throughout life
3 Myths About Relationships and the Harsh Realities
Myth #1 – Love takes your breath away
We’ve all see countless movies and read countless books that make us want to believe this. To believe in love at first sight. Or that our hearts would drop when we see the woman of our dreams walk across the room for the first time. But C’mon! We’re men! This happens to high school kids, college kids. It doesn’t happen to men.
Remember Romeo and Juliet? How old was Romeo? All these love at first sight movies, how old were the people in them? That’s not to say that instant love doesn’t happen, but don’t wait for it. Don’t go looking for it. There’s no guarantee.
Most women you meet are not going to take your breath away in an instant. Most women that you have a relationship with and eventually come to love, are going to inspire you with time. That whole love at first sight myth, falling head over heels, things like that, that’s for kids. We’re Men! And we want Women. Not girls.
Myth #2 – You need to have things in common
This could not be more untrue. There’s a reason why the saying opposites attract is more true than anything else. The best thing about being with someone is that you can experience the world through their eyes. And if you dont understand their world, you can ask them. Sure they might not be your “type”, but you can learn things that maybe you didnt know before.
That’s what a relationship is.
It doesn’t have to be all opposite. Sure you want to have the same values. Maybe both agree on starting a family. Maybe both agree on career paths. Agree on finances. Things like that. But as far as likes and dislikes, they don’t always have to be the same.
Myth #3 She wants it all
A man just automatically thinks that a woman wants him to take care of her. This should be true. Back in the old days, a woman stayed home and took care of the kids and took care of the home. She was the homemaker. She made sure everything was neatly organized, the kids well taken care of, and the man would go out and earn the living. Provide.
These days, it can be done. And it should be. But it’s a bit more complicated. We all want to be men of power. We should be. We have to take care of our women. We have to take care of our kids. We have to take care of our responsibilities. It’s our duty to keep our relationship alive and healthy.
But sometimes it gets hard. There’s nothing wrong with a woman that works. ONLY while you make it.
Once you make it, it is your responsibility and your duty to take care of them. If a woman is going to take care of you, keep your home clean, keep you fed, keep your kids fed and healthy, then it is your responsibility to take care of them.
If your woman loves you, when you’re having trouble, she will be there for you. But when you make it, you make damn sure you give them what they want.
You make damn sure you keep them happy.
If she’s with you when there’s trouble, then it is your duty to keep her smiling. It’s time to man up.
Be a man and take care of business.
Until next time.