Stress is one of the biggest health problems that can affect men. Not cancer or disease. Stress!
I asked 5 of my biggest influences and here’s what they had to say about what causes them stress and how they dealt with it.
6 Causes of Stress and how to beat them
Stress Cause Number 1: All your friends are married and having kids and you’re worried your with the wrong person.
How to beat it: You need the right person. If you don’t have anyone or even if you do, you need to ask yourself these questions about what you want in life.
First and foremost, do you like her? If you aren’t attracted to her, you’re wasting your time.
Do you get along well together?
Do you have the same likes and dislikes? Even if you don’t, you can have conversations about each others interests. So that’s not necessarily a bad thing.
Does she respect you and what you do?
Does she respect your family and your friends?
Does she try to fix arguments instead of fight?
Does she share with you?
If you’re answering Yes to these questions, you have a keeper. If you answer No to any one of them, it’s time to let it go and move on. Find a new one or focus on yourself.
Sometimes you have to make a choice. My idol Victor Pride made the decision to make his business his life. Therefore he will never be married or have kids. That is a choice he made.
So make a choice.
Stress Cause Number 2: Your friends, family, or boss are hassling you to do anything they think you should do and you’re getting fed up with it.
How to beat it: Get away from it. I’m not saying run away. I’m not saying let that problem boil. Get away from it for a bit.
Go to the restroom. Wash your face. Just get yourself away from the situation completely.
If you’re angry, if you’re mad, you’re going to say stuff that you don’t mean in the heat of the moment. Don’t let that play out. Take a minute or 2, go back calmly, and figure out a way to fix the situation.
Stress Cause Number 3: You just lost a loved one. You don’t know how to deal with it. Trust me when I tell you this could make a Major impact in your life. It distracts you from work, pleasure, and everything else in your life if you’re just grieving all the time.
How to beat it: Don’t dwell on it all the time. Give yourself time for it. Everyday or every other day, give yourself 5 to 10 minutes to let go and just grieve about it. Preferably do it at a time after productivity and do something physical after. So maybe after you’re done working for the day, before you go to the gym.
If you work out after, your endorphins rise, and your mood will enhance. This will keep the memory of your loved one alive without being disrespectful or distracting, allowing you to always remember them.
Stress Cause Number 4: Other people’s well being is based on your success. Sometimes focusing on yourself means that you’re focusing on your family. On your wife and kids. On your parents. Brothers and sisters. Multiple people that depend on you.
How to beat it: Focus! Focus on the right now. Then focus on the future. When it gets stressful, just breathe. Breathe and be aware of the situation you’re in. Visualize what you need to do, and if you’re doing it. Don’t overthink it. Know that you’re doing the right thing.
Stress Cause Number 5: You’re not over the Ex.
How to beat it: Think of all the things that you liked about them and write them down. The ask yourself, is she the only girl with these qualities? If you answer NO, then you can move on.
This is a sort of To-do list of things to find in a new woman. Easy!
Stress Cause Number 6: Success is just around the corner. You KNOW success is just around the corner. If you can just get over this last hump.
How to beat it: Just do it! Don’t overthink it. Be aggressive. You know what you have to do. Don’t try to make it perfect. Just do it.
Beat these causes of stress. Live a stress-free life and be on your way to a better one.
See you next time