Every man has challenges in life. You can’t live life without having any negative experiences. Here are 3 Painful Failures or Life experiences that I think every man should have to go through, that helped shape me into a successful man.
3 Painful Failures Every Man Should Experience
Failing at a Job
This is a tricky one. I don’t think I have failed at any job. I have always done my best at any job I’ve had. Most of them have been sales. However there was one job I had selling insurance, for Fred Loya Insurance, that changed my perspective. From the moment I started, my goal was to become the manager of whatever office I was working at. Mainly for resume purposes. (Way before I thought about working for myself.) I always wanted to be the best. Well, I was the best. I was the best salesman in my office for months on end.
But I never got promoted.
New hires became managers before I even had the chance. Apparently the company thought I was a way better salesman than I would be manager. Can you believe that? Hindsight, I guess, 20/20, I could sell better than I could teach other people how to sell. I got sick of not being appreciated for what I could do that I decided to strike out on my own.
I failed in the corporate world! So I struck out to making my own corporation. My own empire.
Long Term Breakup
There’s no worse feeling than a broken heart. I don’t mean to sound like a woman. I was that guy. I was the guy who used to make fun of chick flicks. I would think that any man that lets a woman get him down was weak. I used to talk shit about those guys.
Then it happened to me!
I went through the stages of a breakup and I came out better for it. Now there is nothing that another human could do or say to me that will bring me down.
The most negative emotional thing a man could go through is a bad breakup. If you can get through that, you can get through anything.
Losing a Loved One
I’ve lost loved ones by choice and by unavoidable circumstances. Let me tell you, there’s no worse feeling than losing someone you love by unavoidable circumstances. When a loved on dies, especially someone who inspires you or you look up to, you feel inspired.
The key is to not lose that inspiration.
Write down what you are feeling in that moment. Write down what you always promised that person or what you set out to accomplish with that persons memory. Write it down and keep it with you at all times so you don’t lose inspiration.
It’s a double edged sword. Pain and Inspiration.
I’ve experienced these 3 things. And I attribute them to my success. Which is why I felt the need to share them with my fellow men.
Agree or disagree? Let me know in the comments.
Until next time