Want to look more attractive and pick up more girls when you’re out with the guys?

 

Well for one, stop buying girls cheap drinks. Or expensive drinks for that matter. The best thing to do is get together with the guys and split a bottle of liquor. Preferably Vodka.

 

The secret: Stay and at the bar. Don’t take the bottle to a table. Trust me. Taking the bottle to a table is like taking it home. You practically seclude yourself on an island with your boys and it cuts you off from all the women. No, instead stay at the bar where you know they will be going back and forth to. That way if you see a girl or group of girls you want to talk to, you can invite them to join you.

 

This way, instead of being the creeper trying to buy her a drink (which she will most likely be defensive), you will come off as the host to a party. It’s a win-win. You get the girl interested, and you save money.

 

Stay tuned for more quick tips from Determined to Fight!

 

See You Next Time

 

 

Geo

 

Friends with benefits are nothing new. In fact, the number of people who have sex buddies is higher today than it has ever been.

 

It’s not a bad thing to have a FWB. Why shouldn’t you. You get to have sex with someone you like and trust, without all having to put up with all the bullshit drama that comes with a relationship. It works out great if you both agree and can handle it.

 

They’ve made several movies on the subject such as Friends With Benefits and No Strings Attached. However, despite these movies having Hollywood happy endings, the reality is that having a fuck buddy can potentially end in disaster. Especially if the friend is also a co-worker.

 

After all, its kind of hard for 2 friends, who like each other enough to have sex, to eventually get confused about the relationship or having one or the other (usually her) develop feelings.

 

It’s tough to pull off. But if you have to try it, here are the 5 most important rules too finding and keeping a friend with benefits, and 1 warning.

 

 

1: Choose wisely

When choosing among your friends, stay away from someone who you think hasn’t been laid in a while, or someone who’s been single for a long time. Chances are they will end up expecting something more serious. Instead, aim for someone fresh out of a relationship. They are used to having sex often and will most likely not want to deal with the bullshit of a relationship. Many times a fuck buddy is a long time best friend (usually because there’s no doubt you have talked about sex before during the friendship) . And while that may seem awkward at first, they realize they know each other better than they thought.

 

 

2: Don’t Brag

No one wants to find out that one of their friends is fucking another one of their friends. That’s sort of like finding out your brother slept with your sister. Keeping it a secret is part of the fun.

 

Sometimes you can both be hanging out with the same group of friends, knowing both of you will be getting down and dirty later that night, while everyone else is clueless. There’s something exhilarating about the situation. If you go blabbing, you will ruin it.

 

 

3: Don’t Be Romantic During Sex

If you have a friend with benefits, remember its just the benefits. In other words, sex. Keep it dirty. Have the kind of dirty sex you want to have because you both trust each other. Don’t ruin it with “making love.” Just Fuck. That means dirty sex. No candles! No lavender! No massage oil!

 

 

4: Don’t Be Romantic Post Sex

In order for a sex buddy to remain a sex buddy, you have to be a bit rude. Forget what the movies tell you about how to treat someone after you screw them.

 

Keep it fun! Not intimate!

 

That means no cuddling, no laying in bed talking, no spooning. Leave no opportunity for ‘feelings’. In fact, the best thing you could do right after sex is get up and leave.

 

If you stay and do any of the above, your FWB will start to see you as a potential relationship, therefore blurring the lines.

 

 

5: Don’t hand out too much

There’s a fine line between a fuck buddy, and a a regular friend. If you hang out too much while also screwing around you are entering “dating territory.” You can’t be hanging out too often, especially during the day. If you start running errands with them you will start to confuse the situation. Are you dating or just fucking?

In fact, you shouldn’t even be screwing too often. If you start calling just for sex too often it turns into something weird. What’s the difference between a relationship and hanging out with a friend who you constantly have sex with? What’s the point?

 

So just limit the time you spend together.

 

 

WARNING: Say goodbye to a friend

Sex changes every relationship. So if it’s a friend you don’t want to lose, my advice is don’t even risk it. Sure having a friend with benefits can be fun, but if things end badly (as they usually do), then you will lose more than just a fuck buddy; You will lose a friend.

 

You both have to enter it knowing the potential disaster.

 

Keep these things in mind when entering a Friends With Benefits situation.

 

 

See you next time

 

 

Geo

 

If you’ve ever had a retail job, or any type of job in which you have many co-workers with lots of interaction between each other, then no doubt you’ve heard the “guess who slept with who” rumors. Well they may not be rumors. In fact, office flings are easier and more common than ever. 50% of business professionals admit to participating in a workplace romance. That’s up from 47% in 2007. So as you can see, office flings are very much still alive.

 

More women are working these days, unlike 50 years ago. And since there are longer workdays and later marriages, workplaces and offices these days are filled with young ambitious single, and not-so-single, hot women. It’s still a modern offline dating pool, which has lead to different types of office affairs.

 

Some great, some deadly. If you haven’t had one yet, here are 3 types of office affairs i recommend, and 1 to stay away from!.

 

4 Types of Office Affairs

 

1: The Late Night Hookup

It’s easy to sleep with a co-worker. It’s harder to face them in the morning or at work. If things work out, you both act like nothing happened. You see each other at work giving little glances knowing you got away with something. But when one of you think it was a mistake, that’s when it gets awkward. It can lead to years of trying to avoid each other in the halls or in the lunchroom. So if you know it’s a fling and you know it’s just sex, leave it at that. Just sex.

 

 

2: The Work Wife/ Husband

Sometimes an office “fling” doesn’t have to involve sex. Having a work wife or husband doesn’t mean you are married. But as far as everyone else is concerned, there’s something going on. You have daily lunches, “meetings” behind closed doors to gossip, back and forth texts followed by little chuckles, you name it. During work hours you are closer to each other than ever your actual spouse or girlfriend/boyfriend.

 

 

There’s an upside to having a work spouse. You guys have work stuff in common. You both understand each other when it comes to the stresses of the workplace. It is natural that you develop a bond after months, maybe years of working together. You may have no desire to sleep with this person nor should you. I have to warn you, sex will change everything. You work great together because you’re very close, and it’s fun to flirt. But if you turn it into an affair or a fling, that will bring unavoidable drama.

 

3: The Not-So Secret

More than half of office romancers try to keep their fling a secret. They will use tricks like leaving for lunch a couple minutes after one another, splitting up a couple blocks away from work, leaving work events separately, interacting infrequently while working, you name it. But guess what, they’re not fooling anyone.

 

I was dating a girl in secret while working in an electronic store. When we finally came out to our co-workers 2 months later, we were greeted with a “Uh, we know”

 

It really makes no sense to keep it a “secret” if everyone knows. But there’s something sexy about hiding a relationship. When you can sneak in that kiss or hug or small grope of each other, it’s exhilarating. The risk of being “found out” is both terrifying and exciting.

 

 

4: The Boss

Warning! Enter at Your Own Risk! This is a big no-no. I have seen first hand what happens when a boss-worker affair doesn’t work out. Sometimes the subordinate gets “special treatment” such as a promotion, and other co workers will see it as favoritism. If they get suspended or fired, the criticism automatically falls on the boss.

 

It may sound sexy to fuck the boss, especially to young guys in they’re 20’s. But it is very, very rare that it ends good.

 

One of my male co-workers when I was selling insurance slept with our female manager at the time after a night out with the office staff. It happened on more than one occasion. He boasted about it to me and our other male co workers. Well it turns out the manager was expecting more and it turned ugly when his girlfriend showed up to bring him lunch one day. From that point on the manager would give him extra work, was rude to him, and try to belittle him in public until he was forced to quit a few weeks later. If she wasn’t the boss, it would’ve still been ugly and awkward but not the way it happened, and he may have kept his job.

 

Office affairs don’t always necessarily end bad. In fact, more than half of my friends ended up marrying a coworker. The other half usually a high school sweetheart.

 

Should you date a co-worker?

 

Yes! I recommend it. Why not? I’ve dated a few co-workers. Some ended badly, some ended good. One never got started but i know it would’ve been great since we are still friends. From the moment you meet you have something in common. The workplace. You spend months if not years around each other, getting to know each other. I’ve seen office romances blossom into successful marriages. If you can make lifelong friends in the workplace, who’s to say you can’t make a lifelong partner.

 

Just don’t let it interfere with your work productivity.

 

See you next time:

 

Geo